Grief and Mourning
Grief is a unique experience. There are tangible and intangible losses in life.
We all grieve differently and at different rates, but there are some commonalities in the way we deal with loss. There’s no one-size-fits-all approach to mourning the death of someone you love. Grieving a loss will look different for everyone, but here are some things to keep in mind:
It’s okay to cry or get angry—or both—when you’re grieving. It doesn’t mean that you’re weak or flawed; it means you’re human. You may not know how to feel or what to do next, but that’s okay, too! It’s your process and it doesn’t have to follow any kind of script. Remember: there is no right way or wrong way to mourn. Your feelings are valid, even if they don’t make sense right now.
It’s also okay if you don’t feel anything at all when someone close dies—and it can be totally normal not to feel anything for days or even weeks after someone dies (or even longer). People grieve in different ways, so don’t compare yourself against others’ experiences; focus on your own journey instead of comparing yourself to other people who are also grieving from similar losses (or not).
The intersection of multiple identities can impact how we experience grief and mourning. For example, the loss of a loved one can be compounded by feelings of isolation and exclusion from one’s community because of social stigma. The death of a parent can be especially difficult for LGBTQ children who still may not feel accepted by their own community or the deceased parent.
Mourning is a difficult time for anyone, but it can be especially hard for the people who love you the most. They want to help you through the process, but they might not know how.
Here are some guidance to help you:
1- Grieve together. If you’re grieving, your loved ones will probably also be grieving. Find a way to grieve together—whether it’s through talking or crying or going out to dinner—so that everyone gets the support they need at this time.
3- One way to find comfort and support during your mourning is by connecting with others who are going through the same thing as you. You can join a grief support group or an online grief forum where you can talk with people who have experienced what you are going through.
4- Think about how your loved one would want you to move forward with life instead of dwelling on what has happened between now and when they passed away (or during their lifetime). This can help keep things in perspective and help prevent depression from taking over completely – which can happen if left unchecked!
5- Reach out to a therapist to process mourning and find closure.
If you are grieving and you find this blog helpful, contact me to find out together if I can help you.